I have mastered the art of not giving a f*ck

I read -no, I listened to the audiobook of this book “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck” while I was doing the laundry. My schedule is packed so I decided that every time I wash my clothes, I will continue listening to this audiobook, and so for the next 3 Sundays, my mind was filled with Mark Manson’s words.

It became really popular in many online bookshops that I follow as I always get it on my ads.

Because of its catchy title, of course, one could get really hooked, and think “Oh wow, very bold” both of which are because of the fact that Manson used a curse in its title and because it is, as a matter of fact, in bold. But most importantly, some might come across this and think that it is really compelling. 

“Not giving a damn about anything? How can anyone do that?” some might say, and this is what bugs me the most. How can people care so much about something-anything-everything in the first place?

Back when civilizations hadn't even started you know what we care about? Food! And...how to stop the fire. When the Neolithic era came and civilizations started, we cared about taking care of our necessities: clothing, water, food, and shelter. 

But now, everything is essential and a trivial thing could actually weigh the same to you in a weighing scale of importance. 

My first thought when I came across this book was, “holy crab sticks, somebody wrote a book about me!” of course, it is not obviously about me. However, I have always been a fan of not caring about things. Posting “keep calm and don't care” posts on my 1-year-old Facebook, when I was 15. I kept telling this to myself yet still undeniably care about things I wish I didn’t care that much about.

When I was reaching puberty, I didn’t care about a lot of things. Grades? Acne? Personality? All ‘meh’ to me, and sadly, included in this list were family, friends, and my future. All that I cared about was acknowledgment, attention, and too much of myself. 

I cherished things that held no importance and forgot other’s feelings and existence because my head was waaaaaay too big that it blocked my sight of what was imperative. 

Now, I am in College. Throughout that process from puberty to where I am right now (which is not that grand) I have mastered the art of not giving a f*ck. No, not to everything. But to things that are ACTUALLY important to me. Family, my career, my health, and my cat. 

This book, when I read- and listened to it, felt like a friend who finally understood me, a friend who I can smoke joints (even if I haven't tried one) and I felt like my mind was vacuumed into cleaning my cluttered mind, then put the ones I actually needed in its right places.

In this technological era, which, constant emergence of different trends and products is inevitable. Which, with social media, you would doubt even your own self, with opinions that keep on coming, opinions from people who you don't know and don't care about, I think it is important to get back into narrowing down the things we actually need, and the things we actually care about. The necessities. The ones you really can’t live without.

Weigh it on the scale of importance and make sure that nothing could surpass your own worth.

You can grab a copy of the book or an audiobook on Amazon! Just click on the link below!

stay hydrated!